Finding Your Soul Mates
It seems that everybody is trying to find their soul mate. Have you found yours? They maybe be right in front of you and yet you can not recognize them. Trust me... they are right there. Here are a couple tips that will help you find your soul mates. Some of them may surprise you.
I think most people are under a huge misconception about who their soul mates actually are. I know I was. Soul mates are actually the people in your life that tend to get under your skin the most. Soul mates are here to teach you a lesson and help you grow. Anytime you have a relationship that is contentious take a good look at it and how you feel around that person. It may uncover a lot in you. Perhaps if you have people approval issues, your soul mate will be the person who triggers these feelings in you. By being around them you may feel that you are not enough and that you will never get this person's approval. Turn the mirror towards you and not the other person. Here is your opportunity to start working on your "people approval" issues. It's amazing when you work on "your stuff" how your "soul mate" stops getting under your skin.
Another misconception is that soul mates are supportive and always agree with you. Wayne Dyer once said "if two people are in a relationship and they never disagree with each other, one of them is unnecessary". He said this with tongue in cheek but, I don't think he is too far off. Soul mates are the people in your life that call you on your stuff. If you lie, cheat, steal, embellish... what ever... they are the first to point it out. They are also the first to bring up things that incite your greatest embarrassment. Here is a perfect opportunity to work on shame issues and self acceptance. What a deal!
Soul mates are also the first to argue points with you. And as much as you are committed to being right... so are they. My mom always tells me "it is more important to be happy than it is to be right". Could... she be my? Naw....
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Gain Strength Overcoming Obstacles
Sooner or later you'll encounter a crisis in your life, and how you meet it will determine your future happiness and success. Since the beginning of time, everyone has been called upon to meet such a crisis.
Close scrutiny will show you that most "crisis situations" are opportunities to either advance or stay where you are. Indeed, most changes in your life will be due to either "inspiration" or "desperation."
Personal growth is the process of responding positively to change. Whatever comes your way, give it meaning and transform it into something of value.
A precious stone cannot be polished without friction, nor humanity perfected without trials.
Tips To Improve Your Body Image
The media has really pushed the whole being skinny things for far to long. I think it is time for us to fight back. We are all different and we're supposed to be that way. It would be an incredibly boring world if we all looked exactly the same. It's a truly special experience to look around and realize that everyone is beautiful, no matter what size, color or gender they are. There is beauty in everyone, and that includes you.
Here are a few tips to help you fight back a suffering body image:
Do Self-affirmations daily. You are good enough and it's what's inside that counts.
Wear clothes you feel comfortable in. Don't wear clothes that feel too tight or restrict movement. Don't hold off on buying clothes you like -- do it now! Dress to express yourself, not to impress others. You should feel good in what you wear.
Stay away from the scale -- as a matter of fact, get rid of it! If your weight needs to be monitored, leave that up to the doctors. How much you weigh should never effect your self-esteem or your sense of who you are.
Before you look in the mirror, think optimistically. When you start your day, decide how you are feeling before going to the mirror. No one looks good with bed-head, and our moods aren't determined by the reflection we see. Start your day with self-affirmations, relax in a hot shower, think of all the positive ways you will cope with any stresses of the day ahead, and think of the things you have to be thankful for in your life... only then are you more prepared to face yourself with pride.
Talk to yourself at the mirror. Focus on what you like and remind yourself that it's okay to like and appreciate what you see, no matter what size you are.
Stay away from fashion magazines. Let's fact it, most fashion and women's magazines focus on an ideal of beauty that is just not something anyone in real-life can be. Most models make up less than one percent of the human population when it comes to their size! In addition, each one has a staff of people to make them transform into what the final photo looks like -- designers, make-up artists, camera people and lighting specialists, and photo retouchers (think "airbrush"). Unless you can look through these magazines knowing they are purely fantasy, it's just better to stay away from them. Invest in magazines that contribute to who you are -- News magazine, magazines that relate to positive hobbys and interests (art, music, sports, traveling, home decorating, gardening, etc.).
Make a "why I like myself" list. Think of all the things about YOU that you like -- are you honest? Creative? Intelligent? Compassionate? Loyal? Kind? Think of all the reason you deserve to love yourself and write them down. Hang the list up next to the mirror as a reminder that these things are what make you truly beautiful.
Take the time to do nice things for your body. One a month get a massage, a manicure, or a facial. Pamper yourself to long hot baths by candlelight. Get together with a friend and give each other pedicures. Buy lotions that feel and smell good and treat yourself to some perfume or body mist. Take naps when you need to, just because you can.
Stay alert to fighting negative self-talk. When that little voice of doom pops up in your mind trying to remind you how horrible you think you are, have a strategy for turning those negatives to positives. No one is perfect! When you find yourself being self critical immediately stop and pay yourself a compliment!
Stay active. Movement therapy is something that helps improve everyone's sense of being. Take up Yoga or Tai' Chi. Join a Karate class. Take a thirty-minute walk three days a week. Get outside and play volleyball with the kids or go roller skating in the park with your friends. Take a leisurely bike ride at sunrise. Make angels in the snow and sand castles at the beach. Be active and enjoy life!
Remind yourself that looking healthy is something positive. It means that you are well rested, eating right and nurturing your soul. It means no more than that, and no less than that.