ten steps on setting goals while developing patience
Have you ever wanted something so badly and it seemed that it was unobtainable or slow in coming to fruition? I think we all have. Sometimes during this process of longing it seems that it will never come true and eventually we slip into acceptance that it isn’t going to happen and we don’t deserve it. Welcome to impatience. Impatience can illicit feelings of always being dissatisfied, upset, and angry at yourself for your slow pace of growth and change. In a state of impatience it is easily lose your control and fire off outbursts of anger, temper, and blame on those who are slow to change and grow. Not dealing with impatience can result in becoming a member of the “throw away” generation, discarding relationships, people, jobs, and school whenever things are not working out as quickly as you want them to.
Today we are going to talk about ways you can start developing a greater level of patience. First and foremost remember, “The Universes delays are not The Universes denials”.
What is patience?
Patience is the ability to let go of your need for immediate gratification while sitting back and waiting for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Applying patience in interpersonal relations ships is to display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are slower than you in developing maturity, emotional freedom, and coping abilities.
Develop a consistent philosophy of life. Take life one day at a time. Consider each day a gift of life that will allow you to get one step closer to your goal of growth and change.
Accept the reality of your humanity in that you are going to need time, effort, and energy to change and grow. You will experience some resistance to altering long standing, habitual ways of acting, reacting, and believing.
Reframe your perspective on the past, present, and future. Do not dwell on your past mistakes and failings. Do not worry about what you will become or how you will act in the future. Begin to live each new day as a fresh start.
Break larger goals down into components that are short term goals and objectives, more realistically attainable in the immediate future.
Plan your work and work your plan. Be systematic in planning your path to personal growth.
Accept, understand, and forgive yourself for being fragile, imperfect, and weak. You need to become your own best friend and cheerleader. Love yourself.
Wake up to the realities of life around you. Everyone with whom you come in contact is busy working through their own struggles, weaknesses, setbacks, relapses, crises, and obstacles to their personal growth. All of us are on the path to personal growth. There is no one exempt from this journey. It takes a lifetime to complete.
Confront your fears about attaining your goal. Remember, the world was not created in a day. Beautiful symphonies, works of art, and literary masterpieces were not created in a day. A lifetime is not lived in a day.
Practice meditation and contemplation. Meditation can come to the rescue when impatience takes control. Meditation induces relaxation which has been found to be a counter-balancing mechanism to a state of stress and impatience. Stress induced by impatience is created by the stimulation of the hypothalamus of the brain. Relaxation can be achieved by countering this stimulation – by stimulating other areas of the brain. This is achieved by doing meditation, which leads to state of deep rest, relaxation resulting in a great sense of patience.