The Art of Letting Go of The Past
More and more it seems that this newsletter is becoming a forum for my learning and personal growth; a sort of journal of self discovery, if you will. I hope you the readers are getting something out of it as well. All the amazing emails I get from you folks lead me to believe that my thoughts more often than not resonate with yours.
The other day I was flipping through the Tibetan Book of The Dead which is an amazing read and if you haven't already read it you certainly should give it a look. One thing that came up for me is the little death like experiences we encounter on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. The passing of a job, passing of birthdays, children growing up and of course the passing of relationships and marriages. And it is impossible sometimes to experience some of these passings with out a certain level of grief.
They say there are five distinct stages of grief. I know I have experienced them and maybe you have as well. As an example, we can apply these 5 stages to a traumatic event most all of us have experienced: The Dead Battery! You're going to be late to work so you rush out to your car, place the key in the ignition and turn it on. You hear nothing but a grind; the battery is dead.
- Denial. What's the first thing you do? You try to start it again! And again. You may check to make sure the radio, heater, lights, etc. are off and then..., try again.
- Anger. "%$@^##& car!", "I should have junked you years ago." Did you slam your hand on the steering wheel? I have. "I should just leave you out in the rain and let you rust."
- Bargaining. (realizing that you're going to be late for work)..., "Oh please car, if you will just start one more time I promise I'll buy you a brand new battery, get a tune up, new tires, belts and hoses, and keep you in perfect working condition.
- Depression. "Oh God, what am I going to do. I'm going to be late for work. I give up. My job is at risk and I don't really care any more. What's the use".
- Acceptance. "Ok. It's dead. Guess I had better call the Auto Club or find another way to work. Time to get on with my day; I'll deal with this later."
Other tools that can help you enormously are the following steps to letting go of the past. This is very easy to master and once mastered will become a tool you will always have in your arsenal.
- Counseling. Reach out and receive help. From friends, family or professionals.
- Journaling. If you think it, then you should ink it. Writing it down it helps get it out of your head.
- Confront. At the proper time, confront the people or situations in your life that have hurt you.
- Release. Once confronted then learn to let it go.
- Forgive. Forgiving is a big step in the healing process. We must completely forgive ourselves as well as the other party.
- Attitude. You must have an attitude of gratitude for the good things in your life . Do not focus on the negative. It’s very difficult to be depressed when you are counting your blessings.
- Goals. Create some goals for yourself. You must write down what you want to accomplish. No one plans to fail, they just fail to plan.
- Give Back. No matter where you are in life, there’s always someone that could use your help. Reach out and help someone with your time and or resources.
Live life in the now. Don’t wait until tomorrow. Remember, the past is dead and gone and the future is undetermined all we have is the gift of today and that is why it is called a present.
Have an excellent day.
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You must first expect to succeed if you want to succeed.
When you expect good things to happen,
strangely enough, they will happen.
Expectation energizes your goals and gives them momentum.
Your life will always respond to your outlook, so set your goals high.
The dreams you choose to believe in will come to be.
You can't expect to succeed beyond your wildest expectations
unless you begin with some pretty wild expectations.
Make Time For Exercise
“Remember, when you exercise consistently, you’ll have something that’s truly beneficial for your heart and your soul.”
Life seems increasingly complex these days. There are children and pets to care for, partners who need attention and errands to run. On top of that, the cell phone is ringing, the email is chiming, faxes are flying and taxes are coming due. How is a person supposed to find time to exercise?
The key is to make exercise a priority. In a survey of both active and sedentary adults, both groups had 24 hours a week available for their leisure pursuits. So - there is time to exercise! Workouts of 30 minutes, three times a week, add up to a mere hour and a half out of the possible 168 hours in the week. Remember, when you exercise consistently, you'll have something that's truly beneficial for your heart and your soul. Some tips to help you fit in fitness:
Pencil in the time. Plan ahead. Make an appointment with yourself and pencil your workout in your schedule. When exercise time becomes a priority, just like a meeting with your boss, you'll give it the importance that it deserves.
Remember the benefits. Most regular exercisers will tell someone who doesn't exercise: "You're just not making it a priority." Actually, the non-regular exerciser may feel that the costs of doing the activity outweigh the benefits. Remind yourself that taking a 30-minute walk before work can increase your energy level throughout the day, increase productivity and boost your mood. Isn't that worth a half-hour less sleep?
Be prepared. Lay out your exercise clothes the night before and exercise first thing in the morning.
Blend it in. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily activities - do you normally walk the dog? Put on your exercise shoes and pick up the pace a notch. Extend the walk to 20-30 minutes - that's your workout (and your dog will love it.) Other ideas: Take the stairs instead of the elevator, park the car in the far end of the parking lot and walk. Use any way you can to increase your daily activity level. It all adds up!
Make family and friends time active time. Enroll in a parent-child swim or gymnastics class; take the kids to the park and make an obstacle course for yourself out of the playground; make a date with your spouse to take short after-dinner strolls; get together with a co-worker for a quick lunch plus some brisk window shopping.
Set limits. Don't eat lunch (or play your favorite after-work video game) until you've completed your workout for the day. Linking your workout to a well-established routine will help ensure that your exercise quickly becomes a healthy habit.
Hire a coach. A good way to ensure your success as a regular exerciser is to assign someone to be your personal fitness "coach." This person could be your spouse, co-worker, a close friend or a sibling—someone who will understand your weekly fitness goals and who can nix any excuse you come up with for not achieving them. Your coach's duties include checking in with you several times a week to see how you're doing. If you miss a workout, the coach can be understanding, but should insist on a scheduled make-up session.
Be ready with Plan B. Expect obstacles and overcome them. When your favorite exercise bike is occupied at the gym, jump onto a treadmill or a rower, or start your weight training and return to the bike later. Think about trying a new piece of equipment to spice up your normal routine. This new skill will make your workout more exciting.
Create your own bonuses and incentives. A month of workouts can equal a new outfit, an upgrade in equipment, a massage, a half-hour with a personal trainer, a yoga class, or a fancy pair of cross-trainers.
Be forgiving. There is a delicate balance between a firm commitment to exercise and a rigid compulsion about keeping to a pre-determined workout schedule. By developing a flexible, healthy attitude about your exercise program - making it part of your life, not your entire life - your enthusiasm for exercising will always remain high.
Do not forget to drink a lot of water before, during and after your work out. Drinking 64 ounces of water everyday will help boost your energy. What I suggest is adding the juice of half a lemon to 32 ounces of water with a sprinkle of Steviva Brand Stevia Powder . Aside from being less than 2 carbs, you will get the health benefits that the stevia provides along with the vitamin C and electrolytes that lemon have. You can substitute limes for lemons if you get bored. Click here to order stevia powder. Now, start splashing.
Open Your Hands
"More than any other part of the body, our hands reveal our inner state."
-- Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov
Today, be aware of how you hold your hands when you’re not actively doing something with them.
With the stress of our daily lives, many of us find our hands typically clenched in fists. This is proof of the tension we hold in our bodies. And ponder this: how can we receive the abundance of life if our hands are not open to receive it?
When you become aware that your hands are closed tight, stretch your fingers and spread them wide in the shape of a starfish. Deep breathing will also help you relax into the moment.
"What is always speaking silently is the body."
-- Norman Brown
Sugar Free Low Carb All Natural Fruit Torte Bars
Carbs Per Serving: 10.8 g
Prep Time:<15 minutes
Skill Level: Easy
1 ½ Cups Almond Flour (Or Hazelnut Or Walnut)
3 Tbs. Steviva Brand Stevia Blend or a dash of Steviva Brand Stevia Powder
½ Cup Steviva Brand Stevia Blend
1 Cup Bake Mix
1Tsp. Baking Powder
½ Tsp. Cinnamon
1/8 Tsp. Ground Cloves
1/8 Tsp. Salt
¾ Cup Butter -- Room Temp
¾ Tsp. Vanilla Extract
2 Egg Yolks
4 Tbs. Fruit Only Preserves Apricot -- Or Raspberry Or Strawberry
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Line a 9" square baking pan with aluminum foil. Butter the foil.
Stir together the Nut Flour and 3 Tbs Steviva Brand Stevia Blend or a dash of Steviva Brand Stevia Powder.
In a separate bowl, sift together bake mix, baking powder, cinnamon, cloves and salt. Set both mixtures aside.
Combine the butter, ½ cup Steviva Brand Stevia Blend and the vanilla in a large bowl. Using and electric mixer set on high speed, beat until light and fluffy. Add the egg yolks and beat until fluffy. Reduce the speed to low and add the nut and flour mixtures and mix until just blended.
Spread 1 ¾ cup of the batter into the prepared pan. Top with a thin layer of preserves, leaving a ½ inch border. Spoon the remaining batter into a pastry bag fitted with a ¼" plain tip. Pipe the batter in a lattice patter atop the preserves.
Refrigerate for 20 min.
Bake until the preserves begin to bubble and the crust is just firm to the touch, about 40 min. let cool in pan on wire rack. Using the foil, lift the sheet from the pan. Peel back the foil sides.
Cut into 20 squares.
Sprinkle a little Steviva Brand Stevia Blend on top.
Total Calories: 2212
Calories Per Serving: 184.3
Total Fat: 169.8g
Saturated Fat: 33.3g
Total Carbohydrates: 130g
Carbohydrates Per Serving: 10.8g
Dietary Fiber: 26.3g
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