tips on managing the ups and downs expectations can create
It seems that no matter how evolved I might think I am, that I more often than not still get trapped in expectations. Now, I know I always preach the process of letting go of the expectation and let the universe manifest it. It is the “Let Go and Let God” concept. So why do I still struggle with expectations? Expectations nearly always lead to disappointment because expectations are built in the mind, are not real and nearly always exceed reality.
Here are few tips on how you can manage your expectations and keep you cool:
Talk to someone outside the situation- Talking to someone outside the situation, such as a friend, parent or counselor can be a great way of expressing your feelings. These people are also well placed to help you identify expectations and help you work out strategies you might use for dealing with them.
Talk to the person setting the unhelpful expectations - Sometimes the person might be unaware of the unhelpful pressure they are putting on you. When you talk to them, it might be helpful to use a phrase such as 'when you treat me like this, then x happens'.
Challenge and change your expectations - Sometimes it can be helpful to re-think your own expectations. This may help you decide if they achievable for you. A useful question to ask might be 'what would I suggest to a friend in this situation?'
Create options - Sometimes expectations are only focused on one outcome and if you don't meet it you might feel disappointed or that you have failed. Usually there are a number of ways to achieve a goal. If you can plan to have a couple of strategies for achieving your goals. It may help to talk to someone you trust about what the different strategies might be. This may be a friend, counselor or family member.
Get some space and chill out - Sometimes giving yourself some space and even a change of scenery can be helpful - it's important to give yourself permission to do this regularly. This might include going for a walk or listening to some music, reading a book, going to the movies - whatever works for you.
Express your feelings - Writing down your feelings and keeping a journal, can be a great way of understanding a situation and reducing the power of expectations. It can also help you think about alternative solutions to problems.
Take care of yourself - Expectations can lead to a lot of stress. It's important to take time out by doing something that you usually enjoy. Even though you might not feel like it or have time, exercising and eating well can help. Getting plenty of sleep can also help.
Exercise helps stimulate hormones, such as endorphin, which help you feel better about yourself and your life. If you haven't done a lot of exercise before, it might be a good idea to start doing something small a couple of times each week, such as a 15 minute walk or a few laps around the pool.
Avoid drugs and alcohol - Try not to use alcohol or other drugs (including lots of caffeine or other energy boosting drinks) in the hope of feeling better or forgetting expectations and pressure. The feeling is usually temporary and the after effects often make you feel worse.
Great expectations and lead to great disappointments. Resolve to be skeptical optimist by hoping for the best and preparing for the worst.
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Do What You Love or Move On
You'll never achieve real success unless you like what you're doing.
No one has ever succeeded in a line of endeavor which they did not like.
Your chances of success are directly proportional
to the degree of pleasure you derive from what you do.
If you're in a job you hate,
face the fact squarely and get out.
It's better to be a failure in something you love,
than attempting to be a success in something you don't.
Don't set compensation as a goal.
Find the work you love, and the compensation will follow.
The more you love what you are doing,
the more successful it will be for you.
Beautiful You - 7 Ways to Feel Great About Your Body
by Cheryl Hyde, M.S.
“The quest for a better body begins with an attitude adjustment.”
The quest for self-acceptance and a better body begins with an attitude adjustment. Here's how to start the process.
Make peace with your mirror. Too often, people say, "I hate my body," when it's far more motivating to think about what you like best - even if some things need improvement. Try this: Stand in front of the mirror and identify your best assets. Embrace them, even flaunt them. Only then should you ask, "What do I most want to change?" With a balanced body perspective, you can construct a reasonable plan to effect that change.
Get goal-setting help. Once you've defined what a better body means to you, run your views past your doctor or trainer. Professionals can not only provide a reality check (if the body you want is not attainable or healthy, they can help you come up with a more realistic focus) but also help you devise a workable way to meet your goals.
Rally the right support. Positive people can help you reach your goals and feel good about yourself; seek them out and surround yourself with them. Ask a trusted friend and confidante to help you stay on track and investigate the options in your community, local fitness facility or club. If you feel put-off by the fit bodies at a club you visit, ask about beginner-level classes and groups. Keep looking until you find a facility you're comfortable with.
Tune out toxic people. Just as positive people can help boost your body image, negative people can bring it down. "Energy vampires" suck the energy out of others just so they can feel better. While openly rude individuals are easy to spot, comments from apparently well-meaning friends or relatives might be subtler but have an even greater negative impact. Remember that a person who puts you down is the one with the problem.
Enjoy the journey. Your body is a work in progress; it gets better every day. Appreciate and embrace your journey rather than focusing on the final destination. As your fitness plan progresses, tune in to the ways your body is becoming stronger, more toned and more energetic. Celebrate your successes and reward yourself, whether it's with a new book, a bubble bath or just a mental pat on the back, as you accomplish each step on your path.
Create power from within. Feelings about yourself and your body should not be dictated by outside sources; they should come from within. You have the power to create a positive self-image of who you are and how you look. Developing a sense of self-worth and self-esteem is the foundation for appreciating your individuality and for making intelligent choices in all areas of your life.
Choose substance over form. Finally, exercise sensibly, eat a balanced diet and take care of yourself. Intelligent eating and exercise promote a longer, healthier, happier life. Always strive for your own optimal fitness and health levels, not society's definition of the ideal body. Remember to appreciate your own soul and personality rather than basing your self-worth on your appearance.
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Distinguish Desires From Needs
"Human history is the sad result of each one looking out for himself."
-- Julio Cortazar
We indulge ourselves when we seek to meet our longings through desires of the personality. We indulge ourselves when we buy more clothes to make us happy, when we eat another snack to ease the hunger, when we have an affair to feel powerful or loveable. Any pleasure we get, if we get any at all, is shallow and short- lived.
The only lasting satisfaction can come from meeting the deep spiritual needs of the soul. We discover what we are really after in life when we identify the spiritual qualities and needs that lie behind our desires for material pleasures.
"But life lived only for oneself does not truly satisfy men or women. There is a hunger in Americans today for larger purposes beyond the self."
-- Betty Friedan
All Natural - Sugar Free Curried Red Pepper Soup
Makes 6 servings
1 ½ pounds red, yellow, or orange sweet peppers (about 5-6)
½ cup chopped red onion
1 cup water
2 tsp. chicken bouillon granules
1 ½ tsp. curry powder or, to taste
½ tsp. dried thyme, crushed
½ tsp. dried marjoram, crushed
½ tsp. Steviva Brand Stevia Blend
1 tsp. garlic powder
3 ounces cream cheese
1 2/3 cups whipping cream
Sour cream (optional)
Halve peppers, seed, and remove internal membranes. Place on aluminum-foil covered cookie sheet and roast at 450 degrees for 10 – 15 minutes, until skins start to turn black and bubble. Place in paper bag to steam and cool. When the peppers can be handled, remove skins and slice peppers into strips and place in a pan with onion, water, Steviva Brand Stevia Blend, bouillon granules, curry powder, thyme, marjoram and garlic. Simmer for 15 minutes. Add cream cheese cut into chunks. Puree mixture in blender or food processor until smooth. Stir in cream. To serve, swirl a teaspoon of sour cream on the top of each bowl.
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